“What’s your biggest weakness?”

Isn’t it a horrible question to respond to?

And…to show yourself in a better light, you take a little pause and answer:

“I’m a perfectionist.”

And! you might be and without even knowing it.

Perfectionism, in psychology, is a personality trait characterized by a person’s striving for flawlessness and setting high-performancestandards, accompanied by critical self-evaluations and concerns regarding others’ evaluations. (Wikipedia)

“Perfectionism isn’t a behavior. It’s a way of thinking about yourself.”

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

We tend to believe that perfectionism is a positive. But researchers are finding that it is leading to a long list of health problems:

depression and anxiety (even in children), self-harm, social anxiety disorder and agoraphobia, obsessive-compulsive disorder, binge eating, anorexia, bulimia, and other eating disorders, post-traumatic stress disorder, chronic fatigue syndrome, insomnia, hoarding, dyspepsia, chronic headaches…

Scary…

Over the past thirty years, young people’s desire to be flawless has skyrocketed.

The raw data suggests that the growing use of social media could be fueling the pressure young adults feel to perfect themselves in comparison to others.

It is not enough to aim for 5 likes in our profiles on social networks we had to shoot for 1000000…

We long to know how well we’re performing compared with our peers because this is how we grew up…That’s how it should be!

While comparing people experience their social world as pressure-filled, judgmental, and hypercritical, they think about various potential means of escape (eg, alcohol misuse and binge eating, drugs) or even worse — suicide.

Perfectionism destroying us, and making us desperately sad.

We need to protect future generations from perfectionism and focus on our health and happiness instead!

In addition– the boy is cute and does not need to be perfect!

P.S.

We might not be perfect, but we are special.

With warm heart — Helena Maksyom 🙂